Hi Aly - I think the statements you make are true, but as a Christian women I think the following offer should be made [this is a short summary of my views]: when a promiscuious woman becomes truly converted she has to deal with her past and ask the Lord Jesus heal her. After speaking to a Christian Woman who is one of my mentors (along with her husband) and who has a biblical counseling ministry for 40 plus years, she explained what she would do to restore the converted promiscuous woman and make her able to pair bond with her Christian husband, as follows. She would ask the converted promiscuous woman to make a list of all men that she had engaged in any sexual act with. Then at the next session she would lead in prayer the converted woman to repent of the sex acts and any pleasure/pain experienced for each man separately and ask the Holy Spirit to sever the soul ties made with the man and cleanse the memories. She would do this for each man in the list separately. One such woman she counseled was in her late 20s and had 27 former sex partners. This healing process would apply equally to the converted promiscuous man. Such healing and restoration can take place to restore the woman/man to be able to pair bond. After this is done the past memories will have much less power to tempt the convert to make comparisons because the soul ties will be broken. I would love to see the reaction to such a suggestion by you. What do you think?
I think because I said "Reformed" people assumed I was talking about Christian women. I've seen that word have a few implications I don't quite understand, but I meant any woman who is hypersexual who then turns around and becomes chaste. You can tell when it's sincere on a woman and when it's not. But in any case, I like this idea of repentance. I think it's actually very practical. As for it breaking soul ties, I'm not sure I believe in soul ties, but I think it can be deeply beneficial for a woman to repent for each individual man she has been with so her shame can be lifted. But, I say that for it to be essentially giving the woman a clean spiritual slate. No one needs to carry that baggage around for a lifetime.
This 'recognition' process sounds a lot like it was adapted from the Alcoholics Anonymous 'making amends' Step. Which, of course, would be a good idea except, in this case, the women are not actually making amends to men they were involved with. It seems to me these women are just engaging in the time-honored process of escaping the practical consequences of their actions.
However, that being said, excavating the deep wells of denial that virtually any of us who were promiscuous over any length of time and bringing those behaviors into the light to be examined in safe and understanding setting can be 'healing'.
Women have sexual power over men. It's only when men lose interest in them that suddenly their days of sexual empowerment - and the abuse of that power - starts to haunt them and they want to gain the advantage by 'changing'. But, I rarely see any woman saying she'd like to give up her sexual power over men *while she still has it*.
Women control mating and dating. If they decide to use that power badly, I don't see why any man needs to forgive them, especially if they're not asking for forgiveness. Which I don't see this process doing.
Hi Aly - I think the statements you make are true, but as a Christian women I think the following offer should be made [this is a short summary of my views]: when a promiscuious woman becomes truly converted she has to deal with her past and ask the Lord Jesus heal her. After speaking to a Christian Woman who is one of my mentors (along with her husband) and who has a biblical counseling ministry for 40 plus years, she explained what she would do to restore the converted promiscuous woman and make her able to pair bond with her Christian husband, as follows. She would ask the converted promiscuous woman to make a list of all men that she had engaged in any sexual act with. Then at the next session she would lead in prayer the converted woman to repent of the sex acts and any pleasure/pain experienced for each man separately and ask the Holy Spirit to sever the soul ties made with the man and cleanse the memories. She would do this for each man in the list separately. One such woman she counseled was in her late 20s and had 27 former sex partners. This healing process would apply equally to the converted promiscuous man. Such healing and restoration can take place to restore the woman/man to be able to pair bond. After this is done the past memories will have much less power to tempt the convert to make comparisons because the soul ties will be broken. I would love to see the reaction to such a suggestion by you. What do you think?
I think because I said "Reformed" people assumed I was talking about Christian women. I've seen that word have a few implications I don't quite understand, but I meant any woman who is hypersexual who then turns around and becomes chaste. You can tell when it's sincere on a woman and when it's not. But in any case, I like this idea of repentance. I think it's actually very practical. As for it breaking soul ties, I'm not sure I believe in soul ties, but I think it can be deeply beneficial for a woman to repent for each individual man she has been with so her shame can be lifted. But, I say that for it to be essentially giving the woman a clean spiritual slate. No one needs to carry that baggage around for a lifetime.
I love this approach. Thank you Jesus for every person saved
This 'recognition' process sounds a lot like it was adapted from the Alcoholics Anonymous 'making amends' Step. Which, of course, would be a good idea except, in this case, the women are not actually making amends to men they were involved with. It seems to me these women are just engaging in the time-honored process of escaping the practical consequences of their actions.
However, that being said, excavating the deep wells of denial that virtually any of us who were promiscuous over any length of time and bringing those behaviors into the light to be examined in safe and understanding setting can be 'healing'.
Women have sexual power over men. It's only when men lose interest in them that suddenly their days of sexual empowerment - and the abuse of that power - starts to haunt them and they want to gain the advantage by 'changing'. But, I rarely see any woman saying she'd like to give up her sexual power over men *while she still has it*.
Women control mating and dating. If they decide to use that power badly, I don't see why any man needs to forgive them, especially if they're not asking for forgiveness. Which I don't see this process doing.