Needed this as someone who hasn’t found a husband yet. I have no bio nieces and nephews but I love playing with my friend’s kids and giving them a break when they need it. I’ve found my calling 🥹💖
Aunt Becky is one of the best Involved Aunties. She had her twin boys, but she was always there for her nieces when they needed help or support. I’m biased though because Full House was my favorite childhood show.
I’m usually a supporter of your takes but this one is strange to me.
Why not encourage women to actually embrace marriage and motherhood? Statistics point to women, devout Christian women no less, rejecting marriage as a life path.
Involved aunties can be wives and mothers too.
Let’s get women to open up their hearts to men who want to provide for and cherish them.
The reality is, some women are going to be single no matter what. Whether it’s their fault or not. They shouldn’t spend their singleness in selfishness. That was my point. It will be more rewarding for them to be involved with their nieces and nephews if they never become mothers.
I think you need to adjust your thinking. I have met far too many aunties that are used and abused by selfish married moms.
There is a great burden of sorrow and often a great deal more responsibility for aging parents than the married with kids understand. Singles are often asked to work unrelentingly for employers because supposedly they have no obligations. People will approach them to lead ministries, and the general disrespect that women get for being unable to attract a decent man who wants her to be the father of his children is devastating.
A single woman should not be distracted from seeking her husband, because being a mom is hard.
It's always someone who is not subscribed who has the worst possible take to share on the blog. If you haven't noticed, most women are incredibly selfish today. There aren't plenty of aunties being "used." They're busy working in cubicles and are addicted to smartphones.
This is honestly what I have seen in my own church. This isn’t the general population, but rather singles who regularly attend church. The boomers who have have ministries will literally try to offload their ministry to single young adults with the attitude that the single has no hope of ever getting married. I’ve seen almost no difficulty in young men finding spouses as long as they feel comfortable financially supporting a family (which usually involves buying a starter house, which is what I think is the primary reason for lack marriage in the young), in fact, buy a starter house, marry within 6 months could be a T-Shirt for the group.
Women will not lower their standards. They cannot all get a top 10% man. There aren't enough to go around. Therefore, again, if they are unwilling to settle down or adjust standards, they should focus on nieces and nephews if they have them. This is not hard to understand.
If they’re not willing to lower their standards, are they really Christian? Aren’t they supposed to humbly accept what god has given them, including a 50% average man?
This is the equivalent of winning millions in the lottery(beautiful youth) only to lose it all within months. Should that actually garner people’s sympathy?
Needed this as someone who hasn’t found a husband yet. I have no bio nieces and nephews but I love playing with my friend’s kids and giving them a break when they need it. I’ve found my calling 🥹💖
Aunt Becky is one of the best Involved Aunties. She had her twin boys, but she was always there for her nieces when they needed help or support. I’m biased though because Full House was my favorite childhood show.
Reminds me of this: https://open.substack.com/pub/reactionaryfeminist/p/new-years-resolution-bring-back-the?r=k7sg9&utm_medium=ios
I’m usually a supporter of your takes but this one is strange to me.
Why not encourage women to actually embrace marriage and motherhood? Statistics point to women, devout Christian women no less, rejecting marriage as a life path.
Involved aunties can be wives and mothers too.
Let’s get women to open up their hearts to men who want to provide for and cherish them.
The reality is, some women are going to be single no matter what. Whether it’s their fault or not. They shouldn’t spend their singleness in selfishness. That was my point. It will be more rewarding for them to be involved with their nieces and nephews if they never become mothers.
I think you need to adjust your thinking. I have met far too many aunties that are used and abused by selfish married moms.
There is a great burden of sorrow and often a great deal more responsibility for aging parents than the married with kids understand. Singles are often asked to work unrelentingly for employers because supposedly they have no obligations. People will approach them to lead ministries, and the general disrespect that women get for being unable to attract a decent man who wants her to be the father of his children is devastating.
A single woman should not be distracted from seeking her husband, because being a mom is hard.
It's always someone who is not subscribed who has the worst possible take to share on the blog. If you haven't noticed, most women are incredibly selfish today. There aren't plenty of aunties being "used." They're busy working in cubicles and are addicted to smartphones.
No one is implying your last sentence either.
This is honestly what I have seen in my own church. This isn’t the general population, but rather singles who regularly attend church. The boomers who have have ministries will literally try to offload their ministry to single young adults with the attitude that the single has no hope of ever getting married. I’ve seen almost no difficulty in young men finding spouses as long as they feel comfortable financially supporting a family (which usually involves buying a starter house, which is what I think is the primary reason for lack marriage in the young), in fact, buy a starter house, marry within 6 months could be a T-Shirt for the group.
Best not to assume that these said single women have nephews and nieces.
Women will not lower their standards. They cannot all get a top 10% man. There aren't enough to go around. Therefore, again, if they are unwilling to settle down or adjust standards, they should focus on nieces and nephews if they have them. This is not hard to understand.
If they’re not willing to lower their standards, are they really Christian? Aren’t they supposed to humbly accept what god has given them, including a 50% average man?
I think we’ll agree to disagree. All the best to you.
I had some really good Auntie’s, but they also had children of their own. Do not think this is possible with Spinster Auntie’s.
This is the equivalent of winning millions in the lottery(beautiful youth) only to lose it all within months. Should that actually garner people’s sympathy?