I am a woman who wears many hats: Wife, Mom, YouTuber, and Substacker… And Referral Connector Extraordinaire. I love giving people referrals. I’ve built a couple of social networks online in different arenas that have helped me to improve my life as a woman. Some of these networks were developed with Male Help content creators who made content I have successfully reverse-engineered for myself.
The reality of Women’s Help today is that it is wildly nonsensical. Otherwise, you wouldn’t see the cultural patterns of deficits for women across multiple metrics such as: SSRI use, singleness, childlessness, and marriage rates. In short, I’m almost at a point where I think women are outright sabotaging one another or large corporations are doing so intentionally for profit. This is why I reverse-engineered Male Help for myself.
Mama ain’t raise no fool.
On this journey, I have encountered good and bad actors, so I have curated this list for Men. I have a feminine bias, but it is not by much given my personality traits and professional background. I am explaining this to address the possibility of a female-focused bias in my referral list below. Feel free to scroll down there right now to get to the goods.
Men’s issues require a male-centric lens, and women’s issues require a female-centric lens. Whatever group you aim to assist, you must place that demographic at the forefront when assisting them. The men I will list below have varying degrees of integrity and character.
This list breaks down as a referral possessing one of the following qualities:
I believe the man himself has character and integrity
I believe the man’s product is valuable regardless of their personal character and integrity
The man recommended has both character and integrity with a product of value
Exercise discernment with the list below and see what arenas each man can help you with. I will not state my personal opinions on character because such is the business of social media. I may not like someone personally, but their product can have objective value. Each underlined name or product is a link to explore their work further.
Rian can help men to develop a condensed and focused understanding of positive male identity and sexual strategy. He can do this anthropologically by having taken in Case Studies for over a decade from men on their successes and failures with women. It’s traditional wisdom, which people often snark at. But, imagine if you acquired the romantic revelations of men for a decade. You don’t think some gems of wisdom would be found among the patterns? You’re a fool if you think not.
His Substack can be found here.
This group of men is new and up-and-coming, but they are great if you are looking for intellectual banter and tired of the usual discourse on masculinity. Men need to be able to connect with other men and exchange ideas. There is a hunger of young men who search for this camaraderie and they can find that among this group of men.
They are avid Substackers, so be sure to check out what each man has to offer in their contrasting writing topics of interest.AJAC’s specialty is fitness and kinesiology. Kinesiology matters because some folks work out to get jacked quickly, while others work out to be functional throughout all stages of life. Kinesiology places an emphasis on the latter. Aside from being a fitness expert, he is a proud husband and father. If you’re looking for insights from a Wholesome Chad, AJAC is your guy.
AJAC is also quite informative and intuitive whenever he comments on modern dating, romance, men, and women! AJAC attributes his insights on modern dating to having been a dancer in both high school and college. He eventually became a personal trainer in Hollywood in his 20s. As a personal trainer, his clientele was 80% women. He’s spent decades socializing effectively with the opposite sex. He was also ridiculously fit during this time, which gave him a holistic perspective on dating, relationships, and attraction dynamics.This book will not cure autism if that is the source of your problem in being able to socialize with women. Do not purchase this book if that is your desired outcome. However, this book provides a comprehensive view of modern female mating patterns. It can upset male readers with women, but that is only because they face the painful reality of understanding a new truth. The idea is to realize this new truth, process it, and march onward. Essentially, it knocks women off their pedestals, which can be great! Most women hate being pedestalized by men romantically. Sadly, some men don’t utilize that realization effectively.
This book helped me to understand many mating behaviors in women I knew and loved whom I initially perceived as behaving immorally, unethically, and recklessly. It then allowed me to understand the motivations for some of these behaviors and conclude they’re women out for their gain, like most people. It humanized women more to me because I did not understand many of their mating choices before the read. Read it, take it in without morality, digest it, and resume life. You will come to see that women love opportunistically, and men love idealistically. But, it never does quite say that love isn’t real. Remember that.Aaron Clarey
Like Red Foreman, but much cooler, he is prepared to put a loving (or unloving) foot up your ass to tell you the truth about why your problem exists if you ask him why. Aaron is an economist but can use this analytical lens for other arenas in life. Books by him I have personally enjoyed (or been dismayed by their brutal truths and recovered) are: The Book of Numbers and The Curse of the High IQ. The world needs Aaron’s humorous cynicism and intellect lest we all become infantilized millennials. You will be particularly interested in “The Book of Numbers” if you are a Libertarian male searching for da gurlza.RP Thor
Thor is an underestimated character with an incredible life story. Were he to emphasize his accomplishments more, you would understand why. However, he opts to be modest in his accomplishments. I would say more about why I appreciate his insights, but I aim to respect his privacy. All I can say is, he walks the walk that he talks.Troy does the uncomfortable fieldwork of closing dates with women and documenting how to overcome the cold-approach anxiety. Cold-approach anxiety seems to be a major issue for many young men. Troy consistently shows men that it gets easier with repetition and time. The focus of his work is not beyond that scope, but he will certainly show you how to get a woman’s phone number. (Which, again, is a barrier for many men today.) Most would describe his work as Pick Up Artistry (myself included). However, do you not need to pick a woman up to establish a relationship with her?
Remember that getting a woman’s number is very different than maintaining polarity in a relationship if that is your goal. Troy can show you Step #1. You have to do the rest of the work on your own.
That’s it, that’s the list. Me recommending some gentlemen today does not at all mean there won’t be a blemish on their reputation tomorrow. This is just who I think is helpful as a person, a product producer, or both on May 8, 2023. This could change at any point in time. Some men are affiliated with each other, but not all. Some may not even like one another! But, I just chose the gentlemen I’ve seen partake in interesting discourse surrounding modern men. I’ve even disagreed with some of the men mentioned above on occasion. That’s normal and healthy discourse.
Remember, even with affiliations, these gentlemen still run their independent brands and have their mission statements and goals contrasting to their peers.
Thank you. Good luck out there.
Good article. I'll have to check these guys' content out. Looking forward to more intellectual pursuits versus the vapid and petty reaction channels that some of the Manosphere is becoming.